Why remember those who never value us in the first place? Why recall repeatedly all those occasions when we were slighted or overlooked. We were never meant to take these things to heart. There is something inbuilt into life itself that could help us overcome trials and difficulties, a kind of survival mechanism that supports us, teaching to keep boosting ourselves and our self-esteem particularly when faced with flak. People are often judging us from perspective that is narrow. So what if the first draft did not make the mark? What if I failed in a task or if I did not measure up to the expectations of my colleagues. What if I was not as successful as others would like me to be?
The calm measured life that I have chosen to lead, no matter if it appears drab and dull to some may have been rich in content in ways that is not comprehensive to them. May be I am not right on top in my career and may be my ambition did not drive me to always be on top. Perhaps, I was like a neutral figure in the organisation that made heroes of showmen. Perhaps, I am remembered for other more enduring qualities like kindness and compassion. It was that rebuff that made me work harder and with greater concentration. It was the downgrade I received that made me assess myself more realistically and helped me build on my real individual strengths and resources. It was the unkindness of others or the cutting remarks made that made me value myself even more.
Life has so many facets and we do our best to simplify our responses and to unravel its complexities. The process is sometimes long and we are prone to discouragement on the way. But, as we travel and journey alone, we become more hopeful. Human mind can look at string of positives, building up faith and hope. Life calls all of us to be encouragers. We are after all co-travellers on the voyage of life. What would have happened if life did not survive the thousands of trials and errors that have gone into making of it?