Don’t let the ones who like to circumscribe you, define you. If you allow them to do that, they will reduce you and you work to zilch- as if what you are and what you have achieved don’t count at all. If we are fooled into accepting their definition of us, we would be found wanting definitely. Not just materially and intellectually but emotionally as well. If we remain calm observers of ourselves, we could see ourselves in a far more positive light. It is an external processing exercise with splendid external results that can boost your self esteem. Henceforth, what people say and think becomes less important to us.
What our inner voice says becomes significant. If we look inside objectively, we see the whole picture not fragments stitched together by those who are inimical to us. Small action and behaviour patterns become understandable when we widen our perspective. That is when we see that those who dismissed us as useless and not up to it and not satisfactory, did so from a very narrow perspective. What is important for us is to engage in an exercise of self assessment, a kind of taking stock.
It is just so that we don’t get misled into believing the poor report of those who cannot see our potential and our good qualities. So why not do some moral boosting? It is a great way to get energised and set about exploring the treasure trove tucked away inside. These definitions are sometimes so powerful that they influence our notions of good and bad. This does not mean we have to be dishonest with ourselves and only indulge in self praise. Oh no. Let us do a reality check for who knows me better than yours truly.
God’s definition of us is of course the best of all. He called us “daughters and Sons” and made in his own image and likeness. With this definition before us, we become self-respecting, dignified and are able to walk with confidence. When the path becomes slippery, He holds our hands. When our steps falter, He steadies us. When we begin to become negative about ourselves, His grace fills us with reassurance.