Better Life Vs Bitter Life

Are you among those who feel they are victims and that success is elusive? You have to learn not to be a victim, but a victor. You have become victim to you psychological patterns, your idiosyncrasies. These patterns, so often represent your failures, which do not allow you to celebrate outer success. Hence, in spite of success, you experience failures.

When you carry your hatred inside your mind and heart for long, your hatred will spoil your mind and heart. Learn to drop hatred as soon as possible. Your life, so often, is spoilt due to your differences with others. Differences with others need not end up as hatred. Differences are just differences, but the moment the mind gives them a name tag of hatred, mind and heart get polluted.

We are so often a product of society; human beings are social beings. We are impacted by social expectation. You have to be alert not to become a slave to society and at the same time respect society. You have to relate intelligently to society, lest you become a social slave. When you become a slave to society, you are afraid of society. Such fear will make your life ineffective.

With fear, you will not be able to discern facts of life. With fear, your perception will be distorted. Then instead of the actuality of life, only the illusion of life will be experienced. You have to drop fear. Then you will comprehend facts as facts, otherwise fear will distort facts to fit into its manipulations.

Also you tend to become victim to your inner conclusions, inner beliefs, and these could dominate your life. Your mind is not free from the victimisation by all the inner conclusions and beliefs and the external impact of society. If you are a victim of your conclusions, then your thinking is not free, it is bound. Such a bound mind can never think differently.

In management one talks of “out-of-the-box thinking”. So you can free yourself from conclusion and beliefs and operate from openness. All this needs psychological alertness, but most of us are psychologically lazy, We don’t want to change. It is easy to follow what has been decided. You need strength to think differently and not to allow fear to guide your life. You will do business better and live a better life rather than a bitter life.

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The Beginning Has A Bearing On Your Future

There is an English proverb, “The end justifies the means”. Perhaps there is another more relevant principle which may be expressed thus: “The end justifies the beginning”. It is the end result that proves whether the beginning was right or wrong. Many people begin their lives with great enthusiasm. But the latter period of their life has proved that their beginning was not the right one. Their case was a case of miscalculation, rather than one of right calculation.

Certain individuals start out in life with high hopes, but fail to achieve their goal and then die in a state of frustration. In the beginning they were hopeful, but in the end they died in a state of utter hopelessness. “Right here, right now” is a formula of life that has gained popularity in the present age. Happiness in the present is not the criterion of success. The right criterion is whether a person is able to maintain his happiness and sense of satisfaction right to the end of his life.

The right formula of life is that which can give a person satisfaction till the end of life, and not just for a temporary period. The pattern of human life will be judged by what it turns out to be in its final days. Never make the mistake of planning for life by taking only immediate gain into consideration. You should always plan by keeping the future in mind. An individual should first discover his own self and then plan accordingly for his life. People generally set their goals out of zeal, but this is certainly not a mature way of making decisions.

The better way to decide one’s goal is to understand the realities of life, and then act in accordance with them. Failure to do so is the main reason for people dying in frustration after having set out full of enthusiasm: when they set themselves goals, it was under the influence of emotions, without due consideration. Such a plan does not work for long. It is like a sand castle which is destined in the long run to fall apart.