Neither Your Decision Nor Mine

In our day to day life we are constantly faced with formidable task of making choices. The choice we make is sometimes influenced by instant gratification, at other times by a sense of responsibility but quite often it is nothing more than mere adherence to a routine. Decision making is not made any easier by the mind that tends to vacillate even so often. In fact, could compound the problem. It conjures all sorts of brilliant rational, reasons and justifications for that moment’s indulgence.

There is a streak in us that un-forgivingly assaults the conscience with strictures that tends to dwarf your self-esteem. Life inevitably becomes a sea-saw that alternates between hedonism and virtue, pleasure and pain and between self castigation and achievement. Most of the decisions that we make are fraught with short term implications. And the stakes are not very high as well.

There are times when we are faced with crunch situations. And the decision we make could alter the course of not just our life but also impact the lives of others. As the stakes rise, so does the hesitation. The head and heart seem to wrestle each other for supremacy. The left brain keeps a strict debit and credit account of every alternative. The right brain pops up with very intuitive suggestions. The ego cautions one about what “the others” will say.

Amidst the jumble of voices the soul gets hushed and so remains unheard or unheeded. Repeated attempts to evoke audibility above all the din makes it barely discernible. The voice of the soul or the inner voice needs amplification. The voice within is the voice that helps you blend reality with dreams. It harmonises the internal and the external. It is holistic mix of practicality and possibility.

The feeling of being in total control while making a decision is an illusion because our decisions are based largely on circumstances. The circumstances are beyond our control however powerful one might be. A decision is a way out of a maze of circumstances. We certainly cannot design the maze as per our choice. The impact of the situational maze restricts our decision making to a very narrow bandwidth of exercising our choice.

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Remedy for Peace

You are the cloud

You are the rain

You are the healer

You are the pain

Most physical pain and illness is self injected. Naturally the healing has to come from within, from one’s own self. We hurt and harm ourselves with negative thoughts and energy. The cure has to come from heart and mind. Like garbage at home, the mind too accumulates garbage of two kinds, stinking wet garbage and dead dry garbage. The wet garbage is hate, envy, prejudice and ill feelings. The dry garbage is regrets, hurt, pain and mistakes committed in the past.

The past is dust, for how long will you gather it. The pain may become sores and numb nerves and for how long you will nurse it. Somewhere you have to delink yourself from the past and come back to the present. This you have to do for two reasons. One reason is that you remain healthy physically. All disease comes from the mind. Whenever we are ill, we should check with ourselves who is it that we need to forgive. And the second reason is to get rid of internal garbage, to live in peace mentally. All these grudges, hurt and pain cause turbulence in the mind leading to anger and frustration. We have to be free from both in order to be in harmony with our surroundings

You may call this goal happiness. The easiest way to reach there is to dispose of your mental garbage. To get rid of the accumulated garbage is through practice of forgiveness. Disconnecting yourselves from the past purifies the mind, creating space for peace and harmony in the present while writing the script for the future. The other way is to sit in silence before a lit lamp and forgive those who have insulted, humiliated, harmed and hurt you.

There are three stages of forgiveness. The first is to forget verbally in a prayer. The second is to think positively about them. Thirdly you should do something that is good for them. Also you have to seek forgiveness of yourself. Forgiveness lifts the burden of the mind and creates space within. By forgiving one can destroy past evil Karmas and create a clean space to write one’s future destiny.