My heart has no repose in this despoiled land
Who has ever felt fulfilled in this futile world?
The nightingale complains about neither the sentinel nor the hunter
Fate had decreed imprisonment during the harvest of spring
Tell these longings to go dwell elsewhere
What space is there for them in this besmirched heart?
Sitting on a branch of flowers, the nightingale rejoices
It has strewn thorns in the garden of my heart
I asked for a long life, I received four days
Two passed in desire, two in waiting.
The days of life are over, evening has fallen
I shall sleep, legs outstretched, in my tomb
How unfortunate is Zafar! For his burial
Not even two yards of land were to be had, in the land of his beloved
Anger is a primeval impulse which doesn’t go through the rational part of the brain which is the Cerebral Cortex. Instead, the action flows through the area of the brain that controls our natural instinct. Anger by itself is a natural instinctive emotion but how to deal with it is a whole different ball game. So you don’t produce the next face buster. Anger is like food, it decays on delay and it can fester into resentment, hostility, hate and revenge.
Now all that can happen in a few seconds, hours or years. It is important to recognise where the fury transgresses or arise from. Sadness is nothing but anger turned inwards. The emotions are two sides of the same coin. Anger gets worse when you are drunk. Thoughts get distorted and you don’t realise what you are saying and often not even remember it.
The first step towards anger management is self awareness. When you start experiencing anger, immediately start alternative relaxation methods. From deep breathing to counting to ten, these are the most common relaxation methods in social situations. Surprisingly, a shower can work volumes. Just getting out of the house to avoid a confrontation which might end in due consequences does not work. Head out and jog. Running helps push happy chemicals instead of the emotion that is clouding your thought process. The best thing is to sip water slowly. Black humour is a great way to let off steam as well.