Anger is a primeval impulse which doesn’t go through the rational part of the brain which is the Cerebral Cortex. Instead, the action flows through the area of the brain that controls our natural instinct. Anger by itself is a natural instinctive emotion but how to deal with it is a whole different ball game. So you don’t produce the next face buster. Anger is like food, it decays on delay and it can fester into resentment, hostility, hate and revenge.
Now all that can happen in a few seconds, hours or years. It is important to recognise where the fury transgresses or arise from. Sadness is nothing but anger turned inwards. The emotions are two sides of the same coin. Anger gets worse when you are drunk. Thoughts get distorted and you don’t realise what you are saying and often not even remember it.
The first step towards anger management is self awareness. When you start experiencing anger, immediately start alternative relaxation methods. From deep breathing to counting to ten, these are the most common relaxation methods in social situations. Surprisingly, a shower can work volumes. Just getting out of the house to avoid a confrontation which might end in due consequences does not work. Head out and jog. Running helps push happy chemicals instead of the emotion that is clouding your thought process. The best thing is to sip water slowly. Black humour is a great way to let off steam as well.
Each human being is a fascinating combination of Devine and Demonic qualities. We all have the devil in us, something that makes us pursue self-destructive ways. Yet, even the worst amongst us have extraordinary Devine traits. Our success depends on how well we are able to operate out of our own goodness and marginalise the demonic qualities. Some Devine qualities listed are fearlessness, purity of heart and Charity.
Those two turn spiritual are driven by fear or retribution. Worship must be backed by love not fear. Purity of heart comes with freedom from selfishness and desire. Charity comes from recognising the infinite benevolence of nature. Yet people visit places of worship only to ask for more. True prayer is acknowledgement of what you already have and the desire to share, serve and contribute to the less privileged. You become rich by what you give. The difference between Devine and Demonic is knowledge. The Devine have access to higher knowledge, while the Demonic, deluded by greed, lust and ego are ignorant of their potential.
We are a combination of matter and spirit. You know only matter. You have no inkling of the spirit in you. Yet, spirit being our original nature, it makes its presence felt. Thus, you attribute the glory, magnificence and grandeur of spirit to your individual personality. The way out is knowledge of the distinction between matter and spirit. Then there is no more confusion. Misery and grief vanish and you get established in happiness.
You have to free yourselves from the gates of darkness, desire, anger and greed. Anger and greed are mutation of desire. So it is desire that needs to be combated and overcome. Yet desire is encouraged, fanned and promoted. The doors to your soul are kept shut and you live and die without even a glimpse of your own power and magnificence. If you follow your Devine nature, you do yourself good and uplift others as well. You live a life of success and happiness and eventually transcend the world to attain liberation.
Stress is a disease of 21st Century. Everyone seems to be in stress from childhood to retirement. The only time you are free from stress is when you are inactive. So you are looking for long weekends and holidays to escape from stress. The moment activity begins mental stress returns. As a human you have a birth right to combine dynamic activity with perfect serenity of mind. Then perfect action emerges. Dynamic activity performed in an environment of tranquillity brings excellence and effortlessness in the midst of intense exertion.
What exerts you is not a bad boss, nagging spouse or the weather but stress is defined as mental turbulence caused by unfulfilled desire. As desire remains un-actualised you will be in stress. Your desire is being recklessly fuelled and people are in stress. Unbridled desires make you unhappy. When desire if fulfilled you want more and the greed leads you to delusion. Fulfilled still further, you are envious of those who have more than you and arrogant towards those who have less. If desire is obstructed, the thought flow going from you in the object of desire gets deflected towards the obstruction. This is called anger. All this creates a lot of misery and tension.
Un-restrained desire prevents enjoyment. Desires put you on a collision course with others which prevents you from having a meaningful relationship. Rampant desire unsettles the mind. The law is – attach you lose, detach you gain. Possess and enjoy the world but never get bound to it. Hence desire is your greatest enemy. Yet this very enemy, you pamper, nourish and encourage. When you rise above desire and work for something beyond, the object of desire comes to you. Then you can enjoy it thoroughly with a calm mind. Manage desire with intellect. If intellect approves, go ahead and fulfil the desire without fear or guilt.
Life can never be completely free of problems. When only one person lives there will be no problem but when there is more than one person, problem becomes a given. No two persons think alike, look alike or have similar tastes. So there are bound to be differences and judgements born thereof. This creates disharmony and tension. What is the solution to live a life of Peace?
Truth is multi dimensional. Truth has also so many perspectives. Through our eyes we can see anything, either this or that. With the possibilities of different perceptions there is always scope of difference of opinion and conflict. It is difficult to understand the truth. The greatest truth is the truth of conduct.
There is a fear in the world. We are scared of sorrow. When there is possession, there is fear. Where there is no possession, there is no fear. Giving up possession and observing restraint is the solution to today’s problems. The essence to a fearless life, a peaceful life is through restraint.
The human being has to set limits to all activities. Observe limits to consumption, possession. Limitless consumption is the reason for our problems. Anger, delusion, ego and greed are veiling the truth from our vision. All these passions are born with the desire to possess beyond our limits. Let us try to overcome our greed for possession.