The Beginning Has A Bearing On Your Future

There is an English proverb, “The end justifies the means”. Perhaps there is another more relevant principle which may be expressed thus: “The end justifies the beginning”. It is the end result that proves whether the beginning was right or wrong. Many people begin their lives with great enthusiasm. But the latter period of their life has proved that their beginning was not the right one. Their case was a case of miscalculation, rather than one of right calculation.

Certain individuals start out in life with high hopes, but fail to achieve their goal and then die in a state of frustration. In the beginning they were hopeful, but in the end they died in a state of utter hopelessness. “Right here, right now” is a formula of life that has gained popularity in the present age. Happiness in the present is not the criterion of success. The right criterion is whether a person is able to maintain his happiness and sense of satisfaction right to the end of his life.

The right formula of life is that which can give a person satisfaction till the end of life, and not just for a temporary period. The pattern of human life will be judged by what it turns out to be in its final days. Never make the mistake of planning for life by taking only immediate gain into consideration. You should always plan by keeping the future in mind. An individual should first discover his own self and then plan accordingly for his life. People generally set their goals out of zeal, but this is certainly not a mature way of making decisions.

The better way to decide one’s goal is to understand the realities of life, and then act in accordance with them. Failure to do so is the main reason for people dying in frustration after having set out full of enthusiasm: when they set themselves goals, it was under the influence of emotions, without due consideration. Such a plan does not work for long. It is like a sand castle which is destined in the long run to fall apart.

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Anger

Anger is a primeval impulse which doesn’t go through the rational part of the brain which is the Cerebral Cortex. Instead, the action flows through the area of the brain that controls our natural instinct. Anger by itself is a natural instinctive emotion but how to deal with it is a whole different ball game. So you don’t produce the next face buster. Anger is like food, it decays on delay and it can fester into resentment, hostility, hate and revenge.

Now all that can happen in a few seconds, hours or years. It is important to recognise where the fury transgresses or arise from. Sadness is nothing but anger turned inwards. The emotions are two sides of the same coin. Anger gets worse when you are drunk. Thoughts get distorted and you don’t realise what you are saying and often not even remember it.

The first step towards anger management is self awareness. When you start experiencing anger, immediately start alternative relaxation methods. From deep breathing to counting to ten, these are the most common relaxation methods in social situations. Surprisingly, a shower can work volumes. Just getting out of the house to avoid a confrontation which might end in due consequences does not work. Head out and jog. Running helps push happy chemicals instead of the emotion that is clouding your thought process. The best thing is to sip water slowly. Black humour is a great way to let off steam as well.