For many of us the mind and heart are at loggerheads and the conflict between the two creates confusion. The mind with its objective handling of material world and multiplicity of interaction is ego centric and selfish. But the heart which feels the glow of love gets the glimpse of unity of spirit, it therefore seeks expression through self giving tendencies which unite the two or more persons and makes one selfless and generous.
When the mind encroaches upon the province of the heart it does so by seeking assurance or conviction as a conditional precedent which must be fulfilled before there is release of love. But love is nothing if it not spontaneous. It cannot be conclusion of reasoning. If you want to be certain about the object of love, it is only a form of calculated selfishness. If mind is a treasure house of learning, the heart is a treasure house of spiritual wisdom.
Spiritual understanding is born of a harmony between mind and heart. This harmony of mind and heart does not require the mixing up of their function. It does not imply cross function but cooperative functioning. Their functions are neither identical nor coordinated. The mind and heart must of course be balanced. But this balance cannot be secured by pitching the heart against mind. It can be attained through intelligent adjustment. Such harmony of mind and heart is the most important condition for integral undivided life of spiritual understanding.
The word sorry is synonymous with apology. It is a common familiar word but it is potent and magical in its efficacy. Small insignificant wrongs like bumping accidentally into someone or stepping on someone’s foot elicits a spontaneous even nonchalant apology from the perpetrator. Such superficial apologies reflect a polite well groomed individual but they cannot precisely be categorised as true meaningful apology. Apology with sincerity and remorse and secondly atonement has to ensue.
Both these steps are complementary to each other. A mere articulation of the word divest of sincerity, repentance and atonement is futile and nothing but a charade. Tremendous courage is entailed to face the victim of our wrong doing and apologise. They are the positive conscientious ones who are at peace only after making amends for their misdeeds. Sorry does not cost much, yet achieves much. The mileage of an earnest apology is multifaceted.
The word sorry in itself is imbued with so much potential and power. Within a fraction of a second grave mistakes are diluted, tepid and estranged relations are brought alive, animosity and rancour are dissolved, misunderstanding resolved and tense situation eased out resulting in harmony and rapprochement. With apology we are relieved of guilt and resultant misery. Hence cathartic relief is obtained.
Mustering enough courage to apologise can be a stepping stone for our evolvement and personal expansion. We gain serenity, we get purged and empowered. This can be a major deterrent to untamed ego, social hierarchy, insensitivity and obduracy. Eradicate self justification. Then alone can you annihilate your ego.
A vile act like murder committed in rage would be justifiable to find retribution with another murder sanctioned by law as a punitive measure. More than retaliation what is required is to create an environment of understanding to create a bridge for those in darkness so that they can be helped out of their self created hell, which demands a highly persevering wise and matured approach.
When the rudimentary principles of ethics and morality are complemented with compassion and knowledge then the person will never betray his own conscience. But if conscience is absent, then the person has no humanity in him. What is humanity and what makes one humane, all this needs to be taught and learnt in a conducive environment. Only then it is possible to respond and not react and for this a person needs to cultivate introspection, heightened awareness so as to rise above the shortcomings of mind, eradicate weaknesses and work on expanding consciousness.
The complexities of life cannot be addressed with one line resolutions. If we wish to make a better society the let us first become better parents, better teachers and better human beings. Then we share, spread and disseminate this knowledge by example so that other too get a chance to evolve to live compassionately and cordially. If you hate yourself, you can give hatred to other whereas if you love yourself and see your own true self reflected in all, then there is no way you could cause hurt to another.
We as society need to understand that there are going to be all kinds of people with different mindset, inclinations and dispositions and it would be a utopian idea to believe that everybody will become enlightened one day miraculously. Yet a harmonious environment of love, friendship and respect has to be created and every individual needs to endeavour towards making it possible. If we all set an example of an evolved and responsible behaviour, inspire those around us by instilling peace and love and mutual respect, it would certainly make a difference.